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Gender Freedom (GF) is Canada’s newest Transgender Support Group, located in Ottawa, Ontario.

We offer a safe, supportive, non-judgmental environment
where individuals can feel free to express themselves and pursue
personal growth. We seek to empower our members through knowledge and educate the community in which we live
through outreach activities.

You are not alone!

~ Judy Anna Kearns, Founder

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Gender Freedom News

Thoughts on Bullies (re-post)

August 29th, 2014

Although there is still a scientific debate on the nature and definition of bullying, most researchers understand this behavior as aggression characterized by:

  1. causing intentional harm,
  2. repetition, and
  3. an imbalance of power between the bully and the victim.

Bullies appear to derive satisfaction from inflicting injury and suffering on others, seem to have little empathy for their victims, and often defend their actions by saying that their victims provoked them in some way.

Bullies often come from homes in which physical punishment is used, where striking out physically is seen as a way to handle problems and where friendships and warmth are frequently lacking. Sociologists agree that children who have been bullied tend to become bullies themselves. Researchers also agree that all bullies share two key personality characteristics: Low self esteem and profound insecurity.

Boys and girls bully differently but its still about power and control.

Boys will beat you up and feel they have won because youre the one with the black eye and bleeding nose. But they have won nothing. The victory is shallow and exists only in their minds.

Girls, on the other hand, tend to choose rumors, criticism and ostracism as methods of bulling. In it’s own way, this kind of  ‘psychological warfare’ can be more damaging and harder to combat than the simple physical abuse traditionally preferred by boys.

Bystanders also play a role in bullying:

  • the enforcers join in and assist the bully
  • the re-enforcers encourage the bully by observing and laughing
  • the outsiders avoid the bullying by staying away and not getting involved for fear of losing social status or being bullied as well.

Perhaps the greatest tragedy of bullying is that it doesn’t end with childhood. Childhood bullies often become adult bullies. Their methods become more subtle but their basic behavior patterns remain the same.

We have recently been hearing a lot about adult bullying in newspaper and magazine articles about office bullying and, in particular, ‘the bully boss’. The bully boss’s leadership style is usually described as ‘my way or the highway’ and he or she almost always surrounds him/herself with multiple enforcers and re-enforcers.

The bully boss is also characterized by a top-down management style. She/he consults the employees under her/his authority only to inform them of decisions already made at the executive level; never to seek their guidance or opinions. If the employees choose to remain ‘outsiders’ and simply ‘go with the flow’, the bully boss is successful in maintaining his/her position of power and control. If, however, any employee dares to question the bully boss’s policies or actions, the employee can expect to face the boss’s retribution. Retribution may come in the form of reprimands, threats and (in extreme cases) material punishments such as demotions or suspensions.

The bully boss can also – and all too often does – appear in the leadership of service clubs, volunteer-based groups and other non-commercial organizations. Almost invariably, the bully boss, as President of the club, surrounds him/herself with enforcers and re-enforcers and alienates any non-outsiders – anyone who disagrees with with their top-down policies and poses a threat to their power and control.

I have recently been the victim of this kind of treatment, from the leaders of a group I founded over twenty six years ago (GenderMosaic). The president along with his clique of enforcers systematically drove many talented, dedicated and valuable members out of the organization when they questioned his leadership style, agenda and decisions.

My solution was to leave the old group and start a new one, based on bottom-up, member-driven policies and agendas.

As for the bullies, I feel sorry for them. If the leadership of a small group on the fringes of the GLBT community means so much to them, their lives must be very sad and empty, indeed.

~Judy Kearns


There is a new Gender Therapist in town!

June 22nd, 2014

This is a note which may be of special interest to Transgender people living in the province of Quebec.

Therapist Diane Blanchet recently introduced herself to Gender Freedom.

She is located in Gatineau and is fully fluent in both English and French.

For more information and a link to her website, see our Resources page!

~Maggie James


Dr. Barwin is retiring!

June 22nd, 2014

Dr. B. Norman Barwin, one of the Ottawa trans community’s most cherished medical resource people, is retiring officially this summer. His office will close forever at the end of the regular practice day on August 29, 2014.

Dr. Barwin has guided hundreds of Ottawa and area transsexuals through their biochemical transitions over the past several decades and has received the highest awards for service our community can bestow. He retires after 50 years of medical practice as a Gynecologist and Endocrinologist.

All of us at Gender Freedom wish Dr. Barwin all the best in a long, happy and active retirement. We look forward to seeing him on the bike paths and the cross country ski trails!

~ Maggie James


There at it again – That Vicious Gender Mosaic group just won’t stop…

March 2nd, 2014

Removing my Life Membership that was not enough for them.

Now, for the second time, they have published a YouTube video with my name and photos trying to out me.

The first time I sent them a Cease and Desist order, they pulled the video.

Now they have put it back up under a different name in the hopes I would not fined it.

You Tube is now reviewing this matter and will decide if the account will be cancelled.

I have had YouTube.com removed this video for Privacy Violation http://youtube.com/watch?v=apvWXKF3gbY

I am seeking legal counsel and will use any means at my disposal to shut down this destructive group.

Be forewarned: If they are willing to do this to the founder, what will they do to you

It seems that all they want is their $113,000.00 dollars per year from their Spring Event, and nothing more.

I feel sorry for them if this is all that makes their lives complete. I could never live like that.

– Judy K.

Founder Gender Mosaic

 


Now we know What kind of EXEC the GM group has.

February 6th, 2014
 
Well it has been 60 days since I asked the Gender Mosaic group to provide the charges and specifications of the removal of my life membership in the group. The fact that they have failed to provide that information clearly indicates that there are no specifications or charges on the record.
 
In fact, they have not responded officially at all. Only one member of the Executive that approved the removal has responded on their personal behalf as has said only “The GM Executive is an un-paid group of volunteers”.
 
We need to look closer at that.
 
The Senior Executives of GM Amanda and Sophia do not get paid by GM as far as I’m told, but there is more to their involvement in both the group and the Fling than meets the eye.
 
They also run an enterprise called the Gal’s Spring Fling, a seven-day event in Gananoque in the Thousand Islands. A single day will cost you $300.00. The full 7 day package is more in the $1300.00 range. Some of the attendees are closeted and not so open there; many pay in cash.
 
The organizers bragged that they had 87 attendees last year. A fast bit of math will show that’s $113,100.00 – not bad for a non-profit, tax-free arrangement.
 
The former President, Kelly Ann, told me there is a Kickback to GM based on the number of GM members in attendance, however she was not clear if this went to some of the Executive, all the Executive members, or if any of the money reached the group’s bank account.   
 
The Gal’s Spring Fling organizers (and apparently members of the GM Executive) use their positions, GM’s name (for what it’s worth theses days) and GM’s Website to line their pockets and have convinced the members that they are the good guys.
 
I think they are a bunch of men-in-dresses fleecing the sheep in the fold.
 
At the very least, the Gal’s Spring Fling organizers are in a serious conflict of interest position, and I will seek a full accounting of GM and The Spring Filing with Revenue Canada. Be sure to wear your best, girls. As an incorporated not-for-profit entity, GM must be held to a higher standard of accountability than it was in the past, when it was simply an informal gathering of like-minded people working in support of their shared goals.
 
I will report the results when they are issued. And remember: Gender Freedom is here to help.
 
Judy K.